Find an attorney who suits your style.
Whether your goal is to take your spouse for every dollar they have vs. attempting to maintain a respectful relationship post-divorce because of your children, you want to have an attorney who is aligned with your interests. Avoid attorneys who offer you their advice on how to proceed before even listening to the facts of your case and understanding what your particular goals are.
Start Gathering Your Financial Data
In DC, marital property is distributed equitably. It is not necessary to know who is going to get what prior to filing for your divorce, but it is a good idea to get ahead of the game by having a broad picture of your financial situation before filing. This will make it easier for your attorney to give you the best possible advice going forward.
Have a Support System
Divorcing has often been compared to dealing with a death. It can be one of the most difficult times of your life due to the emotional toll it can take on you and your family. Speak with friends and family who have been through a divorce already to gain some insight on what you might be about to embark on. Ask them how they coped and what other advice they might have to share. Also, if you are able, seek professional help.
Understand the Grounds for Divorce in DC
In DC, a divorce may be granted if both parties have mutually and voluntarily lived separate and apart without cohabitation for a period of 6 months, or if both parties have lived separate and apart without cohabitation for 12 months. So, if both you and your spouse are not both on board and in agreement with living separate and apart, you must wait the full 1-year time period. However, this does not mean you need to wait this amount of time before seeking counsel. Get ahead of the game by speaking with an attorney early.
Know the Difference between an Uncontested and Contested Divorce
If you and your spouse agree to division of the marital property, custody issues and alimony issues, you can file for an uncontested divorce. If you do not agree on any of these aspects, you will have a contested divorce. Uncontested divorces can be cheaper, quicker and can help you end your divorce more peacefully. However, contested divorces are sometimes unavoidable and a skilled attorney is needed to help navigate you through the process.
